Disarm your insecurity alarm
We have all experienced times of insecurity; that creeping feeling of doubt in certain areas of our lives. But when that unsafe feeling rules our life and keeps us from our gifts and from our best self, well it is like someone set off our insecurity alarm. It screams to us in any number of ways; retreat, arm yourself, don your shield and sometimes it tells u
s to attack .
If you are old enough to remember the television show “Lost in Space” the robot would always warn Dr. Smith and the others by repeating in his robot voice “warning, warning, danger, danger”. Does your internal insecurity alarm do this?
In order to understand insecurity versus security it is important to learn the distinction between the two. Merriam Webster defines being secure as: freedom from danger, freedom from fear or anxiety; you can check for yourself here . and Merriam Webster defines insecurity to mean; feeling deficient, not adequately guarded, not firmly fastened, or on shaky ground. Lets take the word insecure one step further and break up the word insecurity by defining the word “in”. What “in ” means is: in possession of, within. These definitions are important because what the word is telling us is that insecurity is found only from within. No thing , no person, no place or circumstance is responsible for our insecurity or security. That is a great thing to know because it would be next to impossible to change our situations or people so we can be suitably secure and safe.
Start with 5 “in” questions when your insecurity alarm rings
- What is it about this person, this situation or this set of circumstances that make me feel inferior?
- Is it possible to feel inferior?
- What would it take for me to feel safer or surer of myself? What would I need?
- How is my current situation, current safety with people, or current circumstance reflective of my past?
- In the present moment, in this present circumstance, with these people, how am I unsafe?
The more you can be aware and conscious of when your insecurity alarm is screaming the quicker you can calm it down by asking yourself a few questions. The more you practice the easier it will become. I also recommend in any insecure situation a simple affirmation repeating for four minutes “I am safe” either just before you enter into the situation you are feeling insecure about and/ or every day until you reprogram the thoughts that created the unsafe feelings to begin with. If you are still having difficulty you may have to revisit some areas in your past in order to get clear of the belief that you are anything but magnificent. You may also need to forgive all situations that created this unsafe feeling, all people associated with making you feel less than secure. It is time to let that belief go, it isn’t serving you well.
I am really excited about my book Rewind, Rewriting your life script, currently in the editing phase. I discuss the insecurities I had in just the process of writing the book and the steps I took to overcome that. Rewind is an abstract autobiography of my life looking at all the ill serving learned beliefs and how I got past them. I am really excited to share my journey with all of you very soon.
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